WORD COUNT:  457  Short, Yet Revealing Words

TIME to RECEIVE:  * Less than 4  Minutes  *

Have you ever had a conversation with someone who had the “Yes, But…Curse”.  The words are barely out of your mouth and you’re hearing those constrictive words. You may not even be able to finish a thought before hearing their reply of “yes, but…” And what follows are all of the reasons why your idea won’t work, or why they can’t possibly succeed, or move forward, or allow themselves to align with what they say they want.

Being on the receiving end of a “yes but” conversation might leave you feeling frustrated, perplexed or perhaps angry, if it happens a lot. You might even be tempted to throw your hands up in desperation.

And if you ever notice these words coming from your own mouth, pay attention. For nothing shuts down communication, or our ability to learn and receive faster, than the “Yes,  but…Curse”

For when these words are declared, that’s a sure sign that the speaker has already made up his or her mind. They know why something can’t possibly work. And so of course it can’t, but only, from their perspective!

And when someone proclaims, “yes, but…” they can’t truly hear what you have to say, because they don’t really want to hear it, even though they might tell you otherwise.

The cause for the “Yes But…Curse” rarely has anything to do with the message, or the speaker.

Sometimes the Higher Self will prompt a question or a request for advice, and there are aspects of the personality that resist the advice or idea. Thus the “yes but…” defense!

Perhaps there’s a fear of change below the surface, or the response is so automatic, that the person who utters it, no longer recognizes that she is closing herself off to receiving, not  just advice … but also her ability to receive what she wants to expand in her experience!

For we are either receptive or we’re not, period. This doesn’t mean we have to accept every word of advice we receive. It simply means that when someone frequently uses  “Yes but..” there closing themselves off to the natural flow of possibilities that can align them with their desired destination.

The Curse of “Yes… but”:

- stifles creativity
- means others may not feel heard
- closes you off to new ideas or perspectives that can help you
- is an indicator of your overall receptivity (which influences your ability to align with what you say you desire)

So what’s the cure for the “Yes but… Curse”?

Its simple – replace “yes, but” … with “yes, and”. This quick fix keeps us open and receptive to other possibilities, without creating the need to defend a position.

Don’t you just love the simple answers to life’s big dilemmas?

Your friend and partner in expanding possibilities,

Daily Discovery …because success is about who we become as we grow into your
goals!

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