Best Friends
September 21st, 2009
WORD COUNT: 557 Short … Yet Bolstering Words
TIME toTruth & Understanding: * About 3 Minutes *
A best friend knows your strengths and weaknesses. And a best friend knows what’s in your heart. S/he looks beyond the minor annoyances and quirky habits, to see the beauty of who you truly are, at a soul level.
Yet we have all felt discord, even in the most fulfilling relationships. When we’re angry, it can be easy to forget that the source of the disharmony is never entirely about the other person, or the situation.
We can learn much about ourselves in our relationships with others. And it’s only natural that we’d encounter anger, resentment and frustration, as well as love and joy, as we interact. Yet the source of these feelings is never really about the outer circumstance, or what someone else did.
The cause of the discord is always about whether or not we’re viewing an event from a higher or lower perspective. When we are hurt or angry, we’ve just uncovered an aspect of ourselves that wants to be loved or healed. For we couldn’t feel defensive, unless we felt that there was something within us that needed defending. And that something may be feelings of self-judgement, inadequacy or vulnerability.
But if we can remember that another’s defensiveness or anger is really a call for love, it’s easier to resist the urge to retaliate with a defensive position of our own. These triggers are actually opportunities to learn about what we want to heal. So even though it may feel differently, these moments of discord can lead to greater self-love and understanding.
The tricky part is not getting caught in our own stories about being right. And that’s not always easy, is it? But, if we can stay focused on the bigger prize, there’s opportunity for great joy. When we decide to relate to one another soul to soul, rather than personality to personality, we can find the strength to pause, and choose curiosity and compassion, for self and others!
Too much energy is wasted trying to make ourselves right in a thinly veiled attempt to feel better. And that never really works anyway, because we also know the truth, that what annoys us in another is ours to heal as well! Otherwise, we wouldn’t be annoyed by it.
Yet when we choose to heal those frightened aspects within, we are no longer triggered by those insecurities. For the spirit is stronger than any fear or habit!
And best friends are friends that can smile and laugh at their own frailties, as well as ours! For we all have vulnerabilities that frighten us. No one is exempt in human form. The truly courageous are those that can admit that. The wise are those who understand the power of unconditional love of self and others. This doesn’t mean being a doormat. It does mean that it takes strength to open your heart and see human behaviors from the perspective of the soul, rather than the ego, who wants to judge or blame another.
Yet isn’t it a comfort knowing that we are never alone, and friends are never far away? For you are loved beyond what words can say!
So your job today, should you choose to accept it, is simply to allow yourself to feel loved!
Today, I know that I am loved absolutely, fully and completely! And so it is!
Your friend and partner in bold friendship,
P.S. We’re in day 13 of “The Great Experiment”. Are you weaving desire with belief? For help, visit the 9/9 post: -suspend-your-disbelief/http://profitswithpurpose.com/subscribers/the-great-experiment
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